20 WAYS TO BE HAPPY
1. CHANGE YOUR
2. KEEP A JOURNAL
Live every day as if it is your last. People who
have survived a terminal illness or accident,
witnessed a tragedy or who have lost a loved one
are said to have a different perspective on life.
Many will say that they no longer leave anything
until later. They travel now, learn a new skill now,
contact a friend now. They know - and we should
all remember - that there might not be a 'later'.
Write an ongoing list of the good thin ;teat
happen in your life every day. What was that
lovely thing your daughter said to
you the other
You won't remember unless you write it down.
Problems can be solved and bad things can be
cleared from your thoughts by writing them down,
too. Try it - it works!
3. GET SOME PERSPECTIVE
about how you would like to be
remembered and what you might tell your
grandchildren about your life. Is it really that
important that the sheets are changed weekly
and the floors kept spotlessly? That meeting last
year meant you missed your child's school concert
does it matter now?
4. DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF
Wasting your energy by getting upset about life's many
minor irritations is just not worth it. Smile and
wave to the driver who won't you merge into his
lane. He's rude and aggressive and it's his
5. DO ANY UNPLEASANT OR DIFFICULT
CHORES THAT NEED DOING.
7. HAVE A BIG CLEAR OUT
AN DIVEST YOURSELF OF USELESS
Do them now. Procrastination drains your energy
and burdens your mind. If you are thinking and
worrying about something that needs to be done
then you might as well be doing it.
6. CHANGE YOUR ROUTINE.
Life can begin to seem like a bit
do the same thing day after day after day, week after
week. We need to create interest in our lives,
and to do new things. If you normally sleep in on
a Sunday, the "sleep in" is no longer a treat by
not get up early and have breakfast in the park?
You'll beat the crowds and be heading home as
they arrive. The day will seem much longer. (Or,
for those who never get a "sleep in" arrange it
somehow - what a luxury it is!)
for a year, the dinner service you've always hated,
kitchen utensils that are always in the way but
never used, unused linen (you still have cot linen
on the shelf and the "baby" is 6!), toys, books,
furniture - give it all to a charity and you will have
helped young families starting out, students, and
the poor. The bonus is that your shelves and
cupboards are clutter free. Housework is easier
and your vision is clearer.
8. LEARN TO SAY
You don't have to do it. Your life is already too
busy and you are running from
jack of all trades and master of none. Give yourself
some space to think an" time do
9. YOUR RELATIONSHIPS.
Remember to love your partner for who he or
is. Have they really changed so much? Or (think'
about it!) might he/she actually be the same
person that you fell in love with? The relationship
might need some work - doesn't everything need
some repair work or maintenance after a few years
running - but the parts should still be in working
10. TELL YOUR PARTNER, FAMILY AND FRIENDS THAT YOU LOVE THEM.
Tell them what you
love about them. Tell them when they do things
well. A little praise never hurts and before you know it you might be told
that you've done things well, too. You never know...
11. ARE YOU ALWAYS A
SHOULDER TO LEAN ON FOR TROUBLED FRIENDS?
It might be hard, but if their problems are
beginning to affect you, then you need to try not
to be quite so available all the time. They need to
address their problems and move ahead.
12. PHONE, EMAIL EVEN WRITE
TO SOME OLD FRIENDS.
You've lost touch but it needn't be forever.
And how long is it since you spoke to your best
friends in college? They would love to hear from
13. GO TO THE BEACH.
the wind, the waves, bare
feet in the sand, sun on the back - there is
nothing so goes for the soul.
14. BREATHE FRESH AIR
Go outside or open the windows. "
deeply to the bottom of your
lags and stale air leave you.
15. GO FOR A WALK.
This gentle exercise will renew and invigorate
YOU physically d mentally on your first outing.
Take it up regularly and you'll feel better everyday.
16. BUY A FUNNY
VCD AND HAVE A GOOD LAUGH
Old classic like "Three
Stooges" or newer comedy
fide "There's Something
About Mary" would do the
job. Have a try!
17. GIVE YOURSELF SOMETHING TO LOOK
FORWARD RD TO.
Book a holiday, a night out, a massage.
18. INVITE FRIENDS OVER
Get everyone to dress up,
room and the table. Greet everyone
champagne or cocktails and have a music playing.
Spend time thinking about and planning the
menu, enjoy the shopping and cooking. People
can't help but respond positively when you've
gone to a lot of effort for them - the night will be
good fun. And don't make the mistake of stressing
out about cleaning the house beforehand - no
one will even notice.
Smiling is contagious - try it and see!
20. MAKE SOMEONE
ELSE'S DAY HAPPIER
It may sound a bit corny,
but why not? Start by
suppressing the urge to blast
your horn at the slow driver
ahead. Or you could even
make as positive a move as
volunteering your time for a